Hug Your Kids, Hug Your Parents, and Leave Newtown Alone

I remember exactly where I was when the news reports started coming in one year ago: driving the Senior Center van, delivering lunches. I was doing the exact same thing today, and that horrible Friday, December 14 of 2012, came back to me.

The disbelief. The helpless grief. The fury, searching hopelessly for a valid target…only to turn back into grief.

I only think of the Newtown massacre periodically, because I have no real connections to it. I know how lucky I am. And that is why I hope fervently that the news media heed the pleas that Newtown community leaders have been issuing for the past couple of weeks, to please, please, please leave them alone for this horrible first anniversary of their tragedy.

One year later, I don’t want to talk about gun control or mental health. I don’t want to argue. All I want to do is send healing love to those poor, torn-up families, and to stay out of their way. And, since I’ve re-opened this well of emotion which is now overflowing again, I plan to “hug” as many virtual kids as I can this weekend.

My own grown sons I have recently seen (and hugged) and will (inshallah) see and hug again soon. So tonight I’m going to call and email my two “goddaughters,” and send some hugs via email to all my former students.

(courtesy elephantjournal.com)

(courtesy elephantjournal.com)

What should we do to remember the Newtown families? Hug our own. If your own family is not available to hug, hug someone else’s kid, or mom, or dad. Call someone. Email someone. Tell them how much you love them.

Hugs can’t heal everything. But they can keep us going even in the face of that knowledge.

If you have your own words of remembrance or comfort, please share them. Then go and hug.

Happy Thanksgiving From Wing’s World

From my world to yours…here are some wishes for all y’all:

  • That you are with someone you love right now
  • That you had enough to eat today…and hopefully not TOO much
  • That any pain you or loved ones might be suffering is outweighed by the love and hope you provide for each other
  • That you are able to feel thankful regardless of burdens
  • That you are able to help someone else
  • That you feel some hope for the world
  • That you feel you are making the world a better place–locally, globally, however you think about it
  • That you have a good book to read
  • That, when you take a shower, you feel thankful for hot running water
  • That you are taking care of your body that works so hard to keep you moving
  • That you aren’t spending too much of your Thanksgiving reading blogs like this
Happy Thanksgiving!!

Happy Thanksgiving!!

And now, my all-time favorite question: WHAT ARE YOU THANKFUL FOR???